At 9 and 10, setting is building the WINDOW: hands up above the forehead making a ball-shaped basket, thumbs and index fingers framing a triangle the eyes look through, and learning the touch that separates setting from slapping: the ball met with all ten finger pads, absorbed a little, and pushed out in one springy motion. A light ball makes this learnable; a heavy one makes it a flinch.
This session runs about 45 minutes with a volley-lite ball and a parent tosser. Legal-touch anxiety can wait (youth referees are kind, and "deep-dish" learning sets are part of every setter's childhood); the springy up-and-out shape is the product. Everything arrives as friendly tosses to the forehead window, because the window is where every set in the sport begins.
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It is the standard teaching progression: the catch-and-push builds the meeting point, the shape, and the leg spring while young hands earn softness, then the catch melts away on the shrinking slide. Youth referees are famously kind to learning hands, and the deep touch of week one becomes clean setting on its own schedule.
A volley-lite or soft trainer: light enough that finger pads can absorb and push without strain or fear. Setting is the most touch-sensitive skill in the sport, and touch only builds on a ball the hands are happy to meet a hundred times.
Geography, not criticism: "back to the window" (above the forehead) is the whole correction, plus tosses aimed there so the window is the natural meeting place. The wall drill self-corrects it too, since chest contact makes the wall rally die instantly.